Oh no! I lived my life all WRONG!
The workshop was going smoothly. All the participants were engaged in the material and I could see the light bulbs of recognition and understanding popping.
Several of the ladies attending were empty-nesters who never had a career outside the home. Their lifetime focus had been nurturing family and running a household.
Suddenly, what they thought of as their “purpose” just left for college and they were left standing with a generous heart and lots less laundry.
As we talked about Dreams and what gets in the way of manifesting them, one participant blurted, “Oh no! I lived my life all WRONG!”
She was regretting the choice of putting herself last while her husband and family benefitted from her efforts. Now that her circumstances had changed, she was feeling rudderless and confused.
Change Begets Change
We like to believe that we are in “control” and our choices are self-directed. Really, though, change often happens to us.
Our circumstances can change on a dime. Things like children leaving the nest. Or, maybe losing a job. Or divorce. Or a death. So many things can redirect how you move forward.
You see, life has a way of rearranging your situation based on what you’re ready for next in your path of growth, not because the choices you made previously were wrong.
It isn’t about “do over,” it’s about “go this way now.”
We make choices based on the knowledge and information we have in that moment. Those decisions were right for the time and circumstance. Family traditions, cultural conditioning and role expectations drive a lot of choices, and there is nothing wrong with choosing a traditional path.
When circumstances change, you have new choices. When your perspective changes, you have new choices. When your spirit is ready, you have new choices.
You are your path
You would not be who you are had you not made the choices you made. The life path you’ve walked created who you are now.
As an example, I married young, had a child right away, and followed the traditional route available to my generation. Had I not made those choices, I couldn’t relate to empty-nesters. Had I not made
Your choices make you who you are.
When you’re ready to change, you shore up your nerves and take a risk. You scare yourself. But, if it’s time for
It’s all designed to bring the life experiences to you that you need for your growth. There are no wrong choices.